Wedding planning has been top of mind lately with me and Joe.
You may already know this, but Joe and I got engaged a few weeks ago. Thank you!
Joe wants a simple ceremony, local, with just the kids. I wanted a Disney wedding. A simple ceremony on the beach at the Polynesian. Joe loves this idea too! BUT. We can only have us and the 3 kids. No parents. No other family or friends. We kind of love this idea, given all the family drama... but I just can't leave my parents out of this
joyful occasion.
I actually tried telling my Mom a few days ago that it was just going to be me and Joe and the kids for the
wedding... and I couldn't do it. I realized that having them witness this happy moment was important to me.
Joe agreed. Not so much
about his parents... but that's a long and negative explanation.
Admittedly, I was disappointed. The Polynesian at Disney is my favorite
place. I wanted to be there and say our vows. How perfect would that be?? Yet, I was stressed over who couldn't be there or if we should pay more to invite more people so that they wouldn't be disappointed.
But then Joe said something to me that shifted my thinking.
He said... "How often do you look at photos from your first wedding?"
Me... "Um... I think I looked at them during the divorce..."
Joe... "How often do you think
about the ceremony and how much has it impacted your life?"
Me... "Well... gosh... never. I can't even remember what the vows were."
Joe... "How often do the people that
you stressed over inviting think about your wedding."
Me... "Never."
Joe... "I am excited and happy to marry you. That's it. And WAY more excited about going on our
honeymoon. That's the experience we'll remember and want to relive. Those are the photos that we'll want to look back on. We've made a commitment to simplifying our life. We don't need excess for our wedding. It won't mean nearly as much as our time together celebrating on our honeymoon."
At that moment, I felt so much relief and happiness. It was like a weight had been lifted. The worry and stress of not inviting or inviting family just went away. Keep it simple. That was the answer. Put our energy into what was REALLY important to US, not what was important to other people.
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